Just now read your post after posting lessons learned.
I was totally blindsided. I see very clearly now that she was trying to get me to agree to divorce. She was really pulling out all the stops. She's in pain and thinks that's the answer. I have to shake this fear that I'm bad for her. I'm too hard on myself. Why would all of her friends who know me and all of her family be telling her to work it out if I were so poisonous? Besides, I'm not stopping her, even if I refuse to help her file (honestly I know nothing about divorce).
Back to work on myself. I'm going to go back and re-read my thread.
