I must know what I'm doing, even when my needs are at a fever pitch. I forgot to expect my wife's emotions to come to a head. I panicked. I went off course. Way off course.
If I find that I'm getting off center, walk away immediately. I could not regain my footing in the midst of the argument, and just weakened the effect of my previous openness about my issues by bringing them up at the wrong time.
Don't go back to convincing, reasoning, and placating. She is angry. She is hurt. Arguments will only fuel her anger.
What Next?
I have to immediately pull back and regain my footing. I need to get my attention back off of her and back onto myself. I need to expect from her a renewed intention to divorce, and maybe even a request to move forward with filing.
What's breaking my heart
She thinks I'm stranding her, making her the bad guy. She is so alone, and so hurt, and I want to comfort her. I'm sobbing here thinking about it. I've tried to be her safe place, but she views everything I do as an underhanded attack.
