H left 2 months ago. I have been DBing continously and have seen some small steps of H moving toward me. H is not living at home and seems to be doing just fine. Maybe he isn't but to me he acts as if he is fine. I have been working with a DB counselor, read DR and both have helped me.
I am in the mode where we are spending birthdays (we have a lot of them this time of year) and holidays together. My counselor suggests that I let him embrace the value of the family right now and keep things upbeat throughout the Holidays.
My adult sons, although they are supporting me in my DB journey see what I am doing and think that H is not having to experience any falout from his decision to want to start his life over without me. They see him as having his cake and eating it too.
It's been 2 months since we have been separated. I've read what the books and articles thet say the MLC person is in a state of confusion but I keep reading about the pain too. What pain is the MLC spouse who left feeling?
