Good/bad morning. We went to the gym and then to breakfast. Everything was going pretty well. Then she started to talk about a situation with her sister. She began to vent to me about people saying things about her and the time she spends hanging out with her single friend. I tried to ride it out but I messed up in defending her sister. I told her that the difference is her sister is single, so they aren't upset that she is spending time with someone other than her husband, which is why her family was upset with her. They are upset with her sister because they don't want her to rush in to anything with this new guy. Totally different situation.
It started to heat up, I tried to back off, change the topic and get away from that topic. She kept getting more and more angry and upset about it.
She is gone now to take S14 to the doctor. I'm getting ready to head out to work. I'm going to try to stay dark today, no calls, let her calls go to VM. Just hoping that in giving her lots of space today it will allow things to cool.
I asked about LRT earlier in my thread, I just don't know how to go about it or if its even warranted and will be affective given that we live together. So staying unavailable today is the closest I can get to LRT.
She is so full of anger, resentment and hurt towards me right now. In the midst of her venting about the situation with her family she said, I've always been a good friend to everyone and that is most likely all I will be able to be to you, I'm gone but I will still be your friend.
God that hurt. I had to fight to keep myself still and not pursue this issue.
I don't know how well I did, I feel like I messed up. I walked into the house and just had to tell God that I still believe, my faith doesn't waver, he will fix this and we will have a better R then we ever thought possible.
