I am no expert but it sounds like you are on the verge of begging her, telling her anything in the hopes she will change her mind. She is too angry right now. I was doing the same thing with my H. It's only been a couple of weeks for me since the bomb hit (for a second time) but all the begging, pleading, crying, sobbing etc.etc. has done nothing
But yesterday, I told him I was taking my power back and working on healing ME. As tough as it has been, we talk but I try not to cry (always has been a weakness of mine) and DEFINITELY do not argue anymore (it rips at my heart but I think its starting to work).
He has already told me HE has to deal with things and the pain HE has caused. He said he wished he could be as strong as I am (if he only knew how weak and vulnerable I was right now) - but if that's what he sees (and needs) to sort things out, then that's the space I have to give him. Pushing him into something he's not comfortable with right now will just end up in disaster.
Hang tough - its a rough ride but we will both be stronger and better for it in the long run - regardless of the outcome
Take care Tyler and keep your chin up old boy!
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
