I saw parts of the Keith Ablow show that aired in my time zone today. It was interesting that he says that an Affair can sometimes make people face the real issues in a marriage and truly result in a greater relationship. He does not condone affairs but say it can be an opportunity. Interesting perspective. What is ironic about my situation is that past the affair, when I look at our relationship, it started to unravel because I was trying to get better. I asked for help financially, I stopped rescuing him and he felt I did not support him. He used that as the excuse for the affair. I also don't like how he used our kids during the difficult year and he was discussing the situation with our D16. It is a mess but I admire and encourage people to work it out. If they are both truly committed to resolving the issues all the more power to them. My H wants me back to rescue him, shoulder the responsibility and simply does not give unconditional love. I really don't think he loves me. He needs me. He is afraid of the unknown. Good luck to all. I hope your situations are different.
