The OW dumped my H and he now is begging me back!!

[chaflo]

Hi.... I somewhat understand your hard times as my husband just left me for another.... I am new at this and am not sure to be on track but I strongly believe that evreything happens for a reason... I am now seeing a bit clearer and realize that maybe just maybe I was doing to much to take care of everything and stopped taking care of myself. Which in turn somewhat made him shut off... He told me a few times before leaving me to GET A LIFE ... maybe that was a sign... actually I am sure it was. This other woman had a life and knew exactly what she wanted. Now that he has left I am pretty sure you have started to take care of yourself and that may be very attractive to him... I find my husband being debalance by my looking and feeling good. I too am real hurt by what he has done.. and have a hard time with the trust business... but try to remember all the good times before all the hurt came.... and seriously I do have some hope that things will improve and that maybe just maybe he will wake and say ... goodness what in th world am I doing.... but if he does come back one thing is for sure I will not forget who I am and what I want. My dreams are not his and vice versa... but I strongly believe that even though he seems to think grass is greener on the other side maybe just maybe he will realize that grass is grass and our grass has a history that is worth fighting for and trying to get it back in shape... even if it is yellow at the moment. Turning the page is hard... I still cry every day... however I know that dwelling in his life and in the past only makes matters worse... if he comes back it going to be a new start... I even told him if he comes back I want a new ring!! So I hope you find the help you need... and the answer you need... I gather that if you are here its cause you do still care and think you can save this marriage.... I wish you lots of luck!!