Question for you: with the contact you do have with your H (i.e., the meeting out, the sleepovers) what does HE seem to present to you as his idea of what you are both doing? In other words, does he talk about this behavior as just a friendship level situation? You said he doesn't want to discuss getting back together, but he has ended the affair and you do have this contact. So I'm just wondering what he thinks this is! Not to frustrate you, my friend, as I know these nutcases have driven us crazy in the past year. Just curious if your H has suggested this is just a friendship between the two of you. And as for the sleepovers...are these involving intimacy at all? Really curious about this. Hope
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
