I guess I am ready to start a new thread. A lot has gone on the last few months, and I have posted here, and there, but I haven't had the time or energy to keep up with a thread of my own.
Although linking my old threads here would be beneficial, I think I will leave them off, because I feel like I'm not just entering a new chapter, but the second volume in my trilogy. I want to keep them somewhat separated.
Long story short. I am 36, H is 42, S11, D12. My H started an A last December. The bomb was dropped at the end of January, he wanted a divorce, and didn't love me. We spent months going back and forth with him not backing down from wanting a D until early this fall when he started to have serious doubts.
After many ups and downs my H tentatively ended his A in Oct. I say tentatively, because he is still not sure if he wants to "work" on our marriage, or if he wants to go back to the OW. OW is 28, has a child under the age of 2, and she also lives out of town. Up until the first of November they worked together. My H has since changed jobs, mostly because of threats that she would get him fired if he broke up with her.
Current situation. H is still living somewhere else. He sees the kids a couple of times a week. He and I occasionally meet out, or he sleeps over. He is seeing a counselor, is on AD's, but still doesn't want to talk to me about getting back together.
I'm sure there are a lot of holes, I will try to fill in as I go along.
