BND... Regarding your H's email, it sounds like he is mobilizing himself to come home, and rather than taking the guilt-ridden, apologetic route, he's in a defensive " strong man" mode. I really think he needs this right now to save face as a man. Your reponse was perfect, IMO... you defended yourself, threw an admiring remark in, brushed upon the adjustment period, and were hopeful. I know you are scared as there are no guarantees and your H has to work through some demons, particularly in seeing you as a person who can and will make mistakes. However, I am so very excited for you; over on the SSM board the women talk about wanting the type of sensuality that your H has been bringing to the picture. Put those fears in a box and have some fun with your man! ( and yes, I do realize you are a mom to 8 children...all the more reason to have this).
