One step at a time.........

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WOW!!! I am so excited for you. Things may be going "good" for me right now but I still do not have the trust or openness I long for. He too has always been a very individual person and will always be, it is something I am learning to accept and not fight. I too was also harsh at times when he was telling me he was uncertain. We were raised in very different households and what I accepted as normal he thought was a problem. Because I didn't think there were problems I basically blew him off for years without realizing. Of course, as I tell him repeatedly he should've pushed his unhappiness more firmly so I realized it was serious. He would mention it and then sweep it under the rug and continue welling in unhappiness instead of the two of us solving anything. So when his decision came to separate I was essentially blindsided. My girlfriend put it best to him when she said that he couldn't expect me to be where he was at the time as it was all new to me and he had been thinking about it for years.

Please keep the positive things going! I am so happy for you.