One step at a time.........

[brandnewday]

Last night I had a very surreal experience.

A friend of mine and her Husband were having severe marital problems.
I watched them calling each other back and forth on their cell phones, yelling and screaming at each other.
Both of them being verbally abusive, both of them threatening each other.
Both of them were totally wrong.
Neither of them took the time to actually listen to each other, they just attacked.
Both of them were hurting and both of them need major help.
It is obvious that they love each other but they have become entwined in this vicious cycle.
They do this pattern every few months and then once things calm down nobody works on the problems, they just let them fester until someone explodes.
And then it begins again.

I can see how easily one can get caught up in the trap.

I woke up this morning very upset inside.

It made me realize how far my Husband and I have come in regards to love, respect and communication.

There is no more yelling at one another, or screaming.
We have been talking and listening to one another.

I never want to go backwards, or end up in a riproaring fight with him over something petty.

There is no joy or satisfaction over tearing someone down and making them feel like s**t.

I have learned so much from the DBing principals and from my friends here on this BB.

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who has been so loving and kind and supportive of me over the past couple of years.

XXX