Hey BND,
Glad to hear that H is being so generous and loving. Wow! Going to the mall with you to help you pick out clothes.
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I am still going into this with eyes wide open and I am very cautious. The more he is trying, the easier it becomes to let down my guard. But I also know this will take time.


How does your H handle your guard? Does he ever complain or feel insecure/resentful about your guard? Is he understanding of it? I know I had my guard up during my M because it was hard to trust my H at times and he complained about that. He has anger/forgiveness issues that have affected me but feels afraid that I won't be close to him. Well, I wish he would go to a boot camp for his issues...
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This has nothing to do with forgivness, but rather self preservation. I am eliminating the dross from my life and unfortunately the damage and the chaos she helped to create have left a huge scar.

I understand this completely. I have had to do this with my own mother - hard to believe she does not and never had loved her own children.

You're doing well and kudos to you! PH

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