Waltzing, but need help with a new step

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time keeping track of his life and phone calls

Hi there, sorry you guys have had a hard time. I see myself in your shoes, I would bring up the fact that the FM friendship bothered me. Though BND has good points, make sure next time you guys can talk when you have the time to have a calm chat. My H was also VERY zelous of his privacy when he came back, I think it has to do w/being on their own for so long that xWAS are just so defensive about their privacy and bristle if they think for a sec that we are trying to control them.

I am actually thinking of telling him we should just back off and not try to improve our R at this time.

I hope you aren't this upset anymore, and realize that saying this is just going to backfire. What do you want to accomplish? would saying this help or delay healing?

Hang in there, give it the 24hr rule and think very hard before you say whatever crosses your mind when your emotions hijack your brain.