Matilda, You need to act in ways that will bring your H closer to you. You need to avoid acting in ways that will create further distance between you two. In other words, act mindfully, not reactively.
I've noticed that you haven't posted R goals. Why don't you read (or review) DR and develop some R goals? They will help you to stay grounded and look for positives in the R. Maybe your H would have a joint R goal-setting conversation, so that you will know what's important to him.
I think it's great that you have your personal goals for 07'. My personals goals were helpful, but R goals will help me to clarify what's important in the R, and to identify action steps that will let me know that progress is being made. R goals will complement personal goals.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
