Quote: And if H was now to make an effort to make you feel more secure in your R, what would that look like?
Slowly, I have told H I just want to be treated better than he treats his friends. An example: he tells me my car needs to be washed. Then he tells me so and so needed help with her car so he figured out what was wrong, went to buy the part, fixed the car, AND washed it for her.
Where I don't feel secure: biggest issue right now is having friends of the opposite sex. Having a friend who he suddenly calls several times a day and she only calls him on his cell phone (I pay the cell phone bill), meets for a drink while I'm still at work, etc, does not make me feel secure.
He thinks I'm unreasonable. I have told him I'm not trying to keep him from having friends, but having friends who he pays more attention to is indeed a problem. I said I would like to be included in activities occassionally, I would feel more comfortable if the person would call at home when she knows he is home, and H and I could plan things and include her.....not me having to ask to be included after he mentions an activitiy.
