Matilda, It sounds like you've made a commitment towards goals that look easy enough on the surface, but for you will be reinventing yourself. I'm glad that your expectations are reasonable--by rewarding yourself for baby steps.
Creating your own set of rewarding experiences will help you to cope with the uncertainties of your R at this time. I hope work and parenting are also rewarding for you.
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."