Hi there Matilda - H seems to be in a far better place than he was a year ago, and much of the kudos must go to you for making him comfortable enough to take a reality check It is precisely these little bumps that we need goals for - they help us see how much has been achieved, regardless of the odd hurdle.
Now sweetie, how in his eyes, have you changed? Remember all the principles of dbing, the mystery, the 180, etc - of all these, which do you think will make him sit back and say, gosh, WHO is this fascinating woman? Certainly with NG I found that going out with my friends and being elusive makes him hunt that little harder. Some men seem to crave that. Try anything, see what gets the response you are looking for.
Make you the focus of his thoughts, not this other 'friend'.
It is precisely these little bumps that we need goals for - they help us see how much has been achieved, regardless of the odd hurdle. 
