Thank you so much for responding.... you all made me feel less crazy already!! I think I had a better PMA before H "recommitted".
I am trying hard not to snoop about the phone calls. I did actually suggest he tell his friend(s) that it was ok to call on our house phone when they know he is home. It seems less secretive. Knowing me I'll take a close look at the phone bill when it arrives.
H is actually away again for training, but he'll be off the next 2 weekends. One good thing is he has agreed to spend Christmas with my family. Only one sister knows the whole story. The others think he was having a MLC due to his job.
I'll start working on my confidence level and plan some joint activities. Thanks for the suggestions. Keep them coming!
