Time to start a new thread after a 2 month break. I've been over in Newcomers for over a year and luckily find myself in Piecing. Hit a big bump this weekend so came back here to get some inspiration!
Here's a recap: M 29years 1 D16 H had an on again/off again EA for over 3 years (never admitted to PA)
June 06 he said he wanted a D and made an appt with a Divorce Mediator two days later. He never officially left the house.Never wanted me to tell friends or family. Never filed (was waiting for Jan 07 divorce so we could keep the tax advantage of filing jointly)
In Sept he came home, asked if I still loved him, and said he thought it was silly to try to start a new family when he already had a good one.
I welcomed him home. Tried to give him space. I saw gradual progression: put wedding ring back on, deleted ow from cell phone, then email, and finally took photo of them together out of wallet (over a 2 month period).
H wanted no part in MC. Won't read any books. Doesn't really want to talk R at all.
He's been doing more things with his brother and two of BIL's friends (who are women). I am often included. All of a sudden this past month H has been helping one of the "friends" in particular. She has been added to his cell phone and to the email address book.
So this weekend I go into a jealous mode. He over-reacts and asks if I want him to be a prisoner in his own home. He is mad that I don't want him to have friends of the opposite sex. I simply say I want to be treated better than his friends.
Since this is getting to be way too long the bottom line is he said he loves me, but hasn't gotten "back IN love". He says he is trying. I told him the new friendship hurt because the affair was still too fresh. He said he understood that, but feels the jealously is all my problem! I believe my uneasy feeling is grounded in the fact he is still not back IN love with me and I sensed that. This weekend is the first time he's said it, though.
