Starting a thread on books folks have read. Post books you've read and the reviews.
Here's what I've digested so far.
Divorce Busting - all I can say is wow it opened my eyes to a lot of things having to do with my own situation but also how I should go about managing ANY relationship I have, be it a friend, family member, coworker, customer and yes of course a significant other.
Divorce Remedy - Further expansion on the above. I think I like DR a bit better as it sets some more realistic expectations about success.
The 5 Love Languages of Children - an offshoot of the original and a great read into how to show love to all types of people. I'm a touch person myself and I sadly admit I still am unsure about what my wife is.
7 principles for making marriage work - I read about half of this one back in the spring when the wife was starting to make a good bit of noise. I admit we did the first several exercises and I got a false sense that all was ok and she was just stressed. I'll be re-reading it in the coming month.
The 7 Secrets of Effective Fathers - got it on CD and listened to it in the car last month. I burned it to the ipod and want to listen a second time so it really sinks in.
123-magic - another parenting book that I just got. I only just started it but it looks very good so far.
Now I did do a bad pursuit thing back over Thanksgiving and gave my W a copy of Divorce Remedy. (The C said that wasn't that bad but it will be if she doesn't read it.) So W told me she read the first chapter and didn't understand it. I think she chose NOT to understand it. So she's given me the book back but did thank me for lending it to her. I won't make this mistake again!!
BUT that said she's bought the book "I love you but am not in love with you" and wants to start to read it. Hmm, a small positive baby step, maybe assuming she reads it and agrees with it. FYI looks like its not on Amazon US but it's here, ILYBNILWY
-------------------- PMA BABY PMA
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
Do a search on LBS BOOK CLUB or something like that...
I would add any of the books by Cloud and Townsend.... BOUNDARIES BOUNDARIES IN MARRIAGE BOUNDARIES FOR KIS... THE MOM FACTOR (Great at explaining why women have Screwed up relationships! BLAME MOM!)
Light Her Fire - This book has opened my eyes to the differences between men and women. I though I had some idea about the differences, but I had no clue! And I love the part about women have to tell us what we want and don't think that we are mind readers.
Five Steps to Romantic Love and His Needs Her Needs are next on my list.
Me: 37 WAW: 31 M: 6 Years No Kids BOMB: 9/4/06 D: 9/16/07 my sitch
The proper care and feeding of husbands it pretty much detailed all I learned in my support group therapy, how harping, nagging, being too tired for sex, treating my H like a kid and not giving him priority over the kids pushed my H away.
Healing the hurt in your marriage Wonderful book w/a Christian insight about how to break the argument/fight patterns, how to forgive and let go of the past hurts, awesome book that gave me strenght when I couldn 't see past my H's A and all its gruesome details.
Battlefield of the mind is also great, how to focus our mind into positive thoughts through God, I read it every night.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
Bumping this up again for all to read and reply as I have seen in some other threads people asking about books others are reading.
I'm early in reading the book "I love you but am not in love with you". So far the first chapter has shed some light into how I believe she feels now. She's lost her love attachment and for us to possibly amend I will have to work on helping her regain it. So back to my thought of speaking her love language. It does seem to get somewhat of a positive response. The big thing is do things before she asks, always a tough thing to do.
-------------------- PMA BABY PMA
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
I found several things interesting. The biggest thing was how to communicate with your potential partner. She gives a lot of tips on how to keep conversations going, body language and things not to do. I wish I had this book years ago; it would have helped me greatly.
I know some people may see this book as being a mind game. Actually, it is in a way. It is an excellent guide on how to attract others to you. It could also be useful on those WASs!
I pray this helps someone with their DBing!
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
