The proper care and feeding of husbands it pretty much detailed all I learned in my support group therapy, how harping, nagging, being too tired for sex, treating my H like a kid and not giving him priority over the kids pushed my H away.
Healing the hurt in your marriage Wonderful book w/a Christian insight about how to break the argument/fight patterns, how to forgive and let go of the past hurts, awesome book that gave me strenght when I couldn 't see past my H's A and all its gruesome details.
Battlefield of the mind is also great, how to focus our mind into positive thoughts through God, I read it every night.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.