Snodderly, I do understand what you are saying, and I know you are right. It's so hard to step away from it, though, because it scares me that it really may be over. Perhaps it really is. I guess I need to start believing it might be. You see, right now, by having contact w/them, you are allowing them to continue to hold on to your apron strings and they don't have a reason to start peddling more through the crisis.
Yes, and I do think that is what my friend was basically trying to say, too.
aid, I do keep waiting and hoping that H will see that sweeping it all under the rug isn't going to allow him to move on in a healthy manner. I sometimes wonder if he's at least ok with the way his life is now, and just tells me that he's still unhappy when in reality this better to him than working on our R.
KDK, In my case, H can't come and go anymore and hasn't been able to since the summer. I don't live near him any longer so that piece of the situation has been terminated. In many ways I believe it may have hindered any chance I have of reconciling, but at the time it was the only conceivable choice I could make. I think it's possible that my H might someday just say to himself, 'Yeah, I would like to see what could happen with Hopefloats but she had to move and start her life over after what I put her through. I don't have the right to ask her to stop that after what I did.'
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
