Hi, snodderly, I don't have to give an ultimatum; it was just that my friend, after talking to me at length, thought this was a good alternative to what I've been doing, which is nothing. In his opinion he honestly felt it would motivate H into dealing with the mess he's made and realizing he was going to seriously lose me for good unless he started to do something about this.
He may be feeling too down on himself and will say that he's not worthy of you and feel that you have to do what you've got to do because of what he's done. Interestingly enough that is exactly how he does feel and he's said those things to me. I think he feels he deserves what comes next because he brought this all upon himself.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
