I was thinking along the lines of what Sun posted. For me, it is still a struggle to learn the difference between setting my own boundaries and issuing ultimatums. I believe there is a proper time for both, but for me it is hard to get the message right and the time right.
One thing is for sure...I personally hate to be on the receiving end of an ultimatum, so your H might not like it either.
About your psychologist friend...I'm surprised he would generalize so much as to suggest all men respond a certain way to a certain stimulus. That seems really unlikely to me.
Anyway, the best advice I know is to pray for unbiased guidance!
