I would never begin to give you advice as all our sitch's are somewhat different. I just want to say one thing. The Conway's and my pastor both basically say the same thing: If you push you have to be prepared for this to blow up in your face.
I think if he chooses to D you will be devestated. You just need to prepare yourself that it could go that way. If I pushed my H right now I'm sure that is what would happen and so I'm not at that point.
I also agree that you can't let them live in la la land forever. Because I think men do like to cake-eat.
So all that being said, just be sure you can handle either outcome before you do anything.
Hugs, Sun
"Tell me what you plan to do with your one wild and precious life." Mary Oliver
