I can tell you as a Man, that yes, what your friend has said is right..... We need to be hit over the head with a brick to understand the reality of the situation. Maybe doing this will shake his world enough to get his to "wake up" If he knows you are still there, as you have said, he can continue to just "exist" in his little world.
mda,
Thank you. This is exactly what my friend said. He also told me that I may not like the outcome, but at least I'll have an answer, although he added he felt in his opinion that my H still loves me very much and I might be surprised as to what would happen if I did this.
You are also right in what you said about being ready to follow through with no contact anymore if need be. It may make me very sad, but I might actually have reached this point.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
