You are sounding good and very much in control of your emotions. That is a good thing and as you have said we are much better off than we were 1 year ago.
OK, I think you wanted a Male perspective on everything So I will try and give you my opinion. Oh course this is just my opinion and probably does not come directly from the "how to deal with a MLCer playbook"
Quote: That includes cutting all contact, not being his friend (i.e. taking calls from H and being the wife/counselor role). No more. Make him deal with this now that he knows it was a mistake to go.
I think we all came to a place of putting an Ultimatum out there for our WAS..... I think the big part of this is that you are prepared to follow-thru with cutting all ties.
I can tell you as a Man, that yes, what your friend has said is right..... We need to be hit over the head with a brick to understand the reality of the situation. Maybe doing this will shake his world enough to get his to "wake up" If he knows you are still there, as you have said, he can continue to just "exist" in his little world.
Quote: Allowing it to drag on and on, my H will never face up with what he did and start to make amends within himself...because NO ONE IS FORCING HIM TO.
And you know Hope this is also about you and what you need.... Sometimes we "baby" our WAS/MLCers... But with everything in life their comes a time when one must
"sh*t or get of the pot"
I think were you are at and from what has happened My advice in a nut shell would be.
"What do you have to loose"
Honestly, Even if you do this I don't feel that is will effect the possible return of your H someday. But what it will do is "free" YOU.
