I have nothing to lose, as you suggested. I didn't do anything right away in regards to this because I wanted time to think about it. My friend is very wise in regards to these things and I know he would never intentionally steer me wrong. And, it actually does make sense. Letting H idle is not helping him or me. Now that he's seen the errors of his ways it's time to fish or cut bait. The other thing my friend told me is that this would be an entirely different attitude coming from me, and it would shake H awake a bit. He wouldn't be expecting me to act like this; he thinks he can take his sweet time because I'll never insist on anything else. The more I consider what my friend had to say, the more sense it makes. I won't say anything before Christmas but I'm seriously thinking of having a conversation with H along these "take charge" lines. Interesting to me, A, that you know of several people that tried this (at the right time, of course) and are now seeing some motion forward.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
