Boy Hope, you always seem to draw me out of the woodwork.
I can relate to the business about your H not wanting to tell you it's over. I put in a rough week with my H. He ended it with his OW two months ago, and although he said he hasn't been in contact, I found out this week he has been. We spent the week going back and forth about whether I could ever trust him again. I told him I didn't think I could take anymore, but he kept telling me to give him more time, not to give up on him.
Last night I asked him to honestly tell me, if it would be easier for him if I just walked away. He said that back in July, he did consider that to be the easiest solution to his problem, but that he no longer felt that way. So after making a few agreements, I ended up telling him I would stand by him while he sees a counselor.
I guess I keep thinking that the part of our H's that can't let go, is the part we once knew and loved. As long as they are having that internal struggle, there is still hope that they will reemerge from this darkness.
