Quote: I may be very sad myself but thankfully I don't have any guilt or self-hatred over any poor choices regarding this relationship.
Yes, and that is a blessing. I am so happy to hear that you feel this way, and are not blaming yourself.
Please do not take his withdrawal as a "bad sign." I know it is easy to do that, but as Snodderly says, you don't know what's going on with him. It seems like it's the LBS's first instinct to take it personally, but that's not necessarily the truth. Lately, I have not felt like talking to my H. I have so much other stuff in my life to deal with-kids, house, work-that I don't have the emotional energy to put into him right now. But it doesn't mean that I don't love him. I've just been confused about what I want.
Your H could be feeling the same way. He's probably so into his own issues that he just can't even think about the two of you. Or when he does, he's so guilt-ridden that he chooses to put it out of his head.
Please, Hope, do not let him suck you into his black hole. One of you in there is enough! Be with people who love you this Christmas; there must be many of them.
~Nicola
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