Thanks for your opinions. I'm just not sure what lies ahead with H anymore. It's a guessing game at best. Holly, to answer your question, I don't know how to be ready for what comes next when I have no idea what that might be, but I can tell you I will handle it with as much dignity, patience and understanding as possible. I agree with you: the holidays are a very hard time for them. I picture H living in the house, no decorations, no lighted tree, no wonderful baking aromas coming from the kitchen anymore. It must be very depressing and the most un-Christmaslike holiday he's had. At least last year, I was living in the house by myself and I did decorate it, and put up a tree. I know it might be advisable not to, but I am sending H and puppy a few gifts this week. Nothing at all like I would have normally done for H, but I did get him a couple of things. I'm expecting nothing in return, and that's what Christmas is all about anyway, so I don't see this being a bad step to take. I told H to be expecting a package from me. I've read some other stories on the board in the last day, and I can relate to the poster whose exH told her recently how he would have never left, etc. had he the chance to do this all over again. My H is not nearly as far along in the MLC process as that man, but he has told me the same thing. I don't know if that bears any weight on my situation, but the realization that H made some terrible choices has already happened in my case. He's openly told me this many times. So, to those of us that are newer here, believe it when we tell you that it will take a lot of time but they will eventually figure out that they made a mistake. There were times last year that I never believed my H would, but he did.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
