11th hour Help!!!

[onlylove]

25,

Thanks for the truth. I have owned up to the years I withheld my love. I have told her that I was wrong but did not know how to love her because of her anger. On the way home from work I could not wait to get home to hold her and tell her I love her. When I walk in the door I was greeted with hate and anger, so I went into my shell. Now I know that this was the wrong thing to do, but at the time it was self preservation.

She tells me she still loves me but not as a spouse. She continues to show care for me by doing little things for me. She keeps reminding me that she wants the divorce. We went to an attorney on the 15th to find out how to get a divorce. My feeling is she feels she needs this divorce to feel like she is her own person. She will not be defined as my wife. Does this make sense? She says she loves me but does not want to be married to me.

I so much want to learn how to love her the way she needs to be loved. But she wants no part of that so I have to sit in the back ground and watch her go to someone else for that love, than come home to the house where her kids and I live and expect to not feel hurt. This is disrespectful to me and the kids. My 16 year old daughter said I hope mom does not become a slut. How should I react to this statement?

I have admitted my past mistakes. I have been working on becoming a better partner. She was asked the question “What makes you happy?” she answered the name of the OM. How should I interrupt this?

She was as much at fault for the lack of love in our marriage as me. Her answer is to destroy the marriage and the kids to feel better. My answer is to work on the marriage.