I am in a similar situation, now for 5 months. W. says she is going to file in Jan. I take the blame when I am with her and try to give her unconditional love. However, I believe she has issues MLC WAW whatever that must be treated if reconciliation is possible. She is selfish and has hurt not only me but our kids. Funny thing when I asked her about how she would feel if I dated again she agreed she would flip out and confessed she never thought about it. Unfortunately these WAS may not see the error of their ways until the damage has been done to all around them.