I agree I need to cut the cord. Well today was a little snip on that cord. H and I have not talked with one another since Jan 5th. H called on the 15th and we talked about my child support. Well then the phone calls started right up again. He called last night and I ignored it. He called 30 minutes later so I answered it (I know WRONG!) We talked about the child support again. He then called back (Again, WRONG to answer) and tried to engage me into a conversation and I wouldn't. He asked me if I was mad at him and I told him that I wasn't, that I was watching TV. He tells me, "Well you have a good night, okay?" Real overly sweet (yuck).
This brings us to this morning. H calls me at work and asks if I could do something for him. I asked, what it was. You see, back in June H lost his drivers license due to a DUI. Our car insurances got cancelled in November due to this (I was livid). I managed to get car insurance for myself (and at a lower price ). This morning H said he was trying to get insurance on his truck and his friend J was going to be the one who is the insured driver of the truck. The insurance company told H that J has to be on the title in order to be insured. H then asks me if I would get insurance on the truck through the same company I found for myself. I explained to H that I had to write a letter to the underwriters stating that H does not have access to my vehicle and that we are separated. I then asked H what he thought would happen to my insurance if they found out that I was insuring his truck and letting him drive it without a license? He thought about it and then asked if I would sign over the title solely to him and he would add his friend J or J's wife to it so J could get the insurance. I was stunned that he would sign something over like to this to a friend just to get insurance. I told him sure. I then asked H if he trusted J with the truck? H responded, I trust him with my life. Okay, whatever. Then I threw in, "What if, J got mad at you and then reported the truck stolen?" H didn't have an answer for that but I could tell he was giving it some thought.
It took everything I had to turn him down. I wanted to give him suggestions on what he should do, but I didn't. Luckily the truck is paid off by H's daddy and H is making payments to him. The weird thing is, H thanked me for considering about doing the insurance thing. He thanked me twice.
In my case, my H went totally dark on me too, and it's good for me. I also know in my case, it helped to TOTALLY remove myself from his life....so he didn't have an excuse to why his life was miserable and he still made destructive choices that were HIS OWN. I made sure I was no longer what he was running from. Sometimes I think it keeps them in this holding pattern....keeping that string of contact.
I agree with you. I'm hoping that my H sees that I was not always the one to blame for the bad things that happened to him. I kinda get the feeling that things between his roommate and him are not so good. H hasn't mentioned anything but I just get this feeling.
Thanks again always_14
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years
). This morning H said he was trying to get insurance on his truck and his friend J was going to be the one who is the insured driver of the truck. The insurance company told H that J has to be on the title in order to be insured. H then asks me if I would get insurance on the truck 
through the same company I found for myself. I explained to H that I had to write a letter to the underwriters stating that H does not have access to my vehicle and that we are separated. I then asked H what he thought would happen to my insurance if they found out that I was insuring his truck and letting him drive it without a license? He thought about it and then asked if I would sign over the title solely to him and he would add his friend J or J's wife to it so J could get the insurance. I was stunned that he would sign something over like to this to a friend just to get insurance. I told him sure. I then asked H if he trusted J with the truck? H responded, I trust him with my life. Okay, whatever. Then I threw in, "What if, J got mad at you and then reported the truck stolen?" H didn't have an answer for that but I could tell he was giving it some thought.
