I feel I've had enough

[kaydeekay]

Thank you OnHold for responding.

"Just don't do anything that can't be undone. Until you are sure that, that is what you want"

What a dear friend you must have to give this great adivce. I will take heed and see how I feel by the end of the month. Who knows what can happen between now and then. But I do know that I cannot continue to live MY life like this forever.

Well it seems H and I are now butting heads on who gets to claim D13 for income tax purposes. A few months ago we had agreed that I would take her on even numbered tax years. That means I will get to claim her when I file this year and he the next.

I've been avoiding contact with H and we have been communicating through VM's or texts. The last VM (this morning) H was not too happy and stated "Why would I not take even years, it doesn't make sense. Next year I get to claim S17?" (He claims his S17 on odd numbered years). Then he went on to stay that "it was all about money for you."

I get tired of hearing that I'm such a gold digger where he is concerned. The funny thing is I earn a few thousand less than he does a year. And yet, I've managed to pay a mortgage, car payment, insurance, utilities, etc... with little to no help from him these past two years . I've also managed to stay at one job for 10 years and he has been fired from one and barely holding on to this one since he left two years ago.

There's a thing that confuses me with an MLCer such as my darling H. Why is it that he can live from one place to another and it not bother him? (at least it appears that way to me). He has lived with an uncle, OW (out of the pic), his sister, and now a friend of ours. He has managed to damage a little of the relationship he had with his uncle and sister.

I'm just waiting to see if his friendship with the friend will come to an end or end up flourishing. The things H used to say about our friend (I'll call T) while we were together. They are friends but not the best. H commented that even though he and T are friends, H didn't think he could be there for T if T needed him like his best friend C. And now H hasn't talked to C in months. A pity because C has been there for H for at least 14 years.