I feel I've had enough

[kaydeekay]

Thanks for dropping by OnHold.

Detach from his drama – and go on with your life.

I'm taking that advice and running with it.

Even after I told H to leave me alone he still tried to make some sort of contact. H called my cell Saturday while I was out Christmas shopping. I didn't want to talk to him so I let it go straight to voicemail. His message was that he was trying to make contact with D13 and wanted me to have her call him. When I returned home I checked D13's cell phone and H only attempted to make one contact with her. This is typical of H. During the last month and a half H has called me 3 to 4 times a day and would call D13 occassionally. Now that I don't want any contact from him he will try to make contact with me through D13.

Sunday, H dropped by the house unannounced (which I've asked him to phone before coming over) to give me some money. I was home alone and I really didn't want to answer the door when he knocked. When I didn't answer the door, he let himself in (the door was unlocked ). H was real short with me, gave me the money, and left. A few hours later H showed up with his roommate (a good friend of ours) to pick up a mattress. I left as soon as they arrived.

This happens everytime I attempt to set boundaries, and try to have very limited to no contact with H. But somehow, somewhere I have allowed H to reel me back in. It all starts with friendly chit chat and then wham! I'm back to the same ol' sh!t. Not this time!! I will find the strength to not allow him to do this to me again!