I feel I've had enough

[OnHoldAZ]

This is normal behavior for someone in MLC who is not doing any work on themselves. If he’s been allowed to come And go as he pleases – why should he?

I hear a teenager…………………..it’s all your fault, you were mean, you made me sleep with her……………….GIVE ME A BREAK!!!!!!!

H told me that during our M I really didn't pay attention to him, didn't tell him I loved him enough, and didn't tell anything positive about himself. H said that OW (whom he met at work) started showing him attention and telling him what a good looking guy he was and that's how it all began.

I guess if you want some one who is going to sleep with every Woman who pays him a complement - you could take him back, but I think I would stick this one back into the oven until it’s done.

However – if I were in your shoes, I would set boundaries and stick to them. I would not let H back in the front door until he had crawled through glass to prove his regret (actions – not words). I would cut him off except for conversation/email/txt msgs about finances and kids.


I like this better – with out the “I really think”

I've had my fill and I'm taking myself out of this vicious cycle.

Part of the problem dealing with MLC – we think if we are nice and worry about how our MLC’er will take everything, it will help. I’ve raised 2 teenagers and dealt with far too many in the military – the words that describe them and most MLC’ers is ungrateful self-centered little s%#*’*

They will twist your words and accuse you of, and blame you for everything – just like a 17 your-old boy who wants to borrow the Porsche for a “hot date” and you say no.

Detach from his drama – and go on with your life.