I've been on a few of the other boards, but I believe my H in in MLC.
Quick background:
Separated 11/2004...found out about OW on 2/15/05...H moved out. Filed D 7/18/05. D was never finallized due to H no longer living in the jurisdiction he filed D papers so it was dismissed. H and OW ended things about a year ago. There were other women. Between the time of the initial separation in 2004 up until October 2006, H has moved out so many times...too many to count. H has lived with relatives, OW, and friends. After living with somone for awhile, he would move out and move back home, then only to move out again.
Each time H would "return home" he would make promises that he would work on things, be a better H/father, etc. Each time things didn't turn out as promised. H does keep in good contact with D13, which is a plus.
H moved out this past October after a 2 week stay and we decided that we would move forward with the D. After a few days of him leaving, H would drop by the house for petty things. I had to tell H that he would need to start calling me prior to coming over. H didn't like this too well and told me I was being mean. H started calling me 3 to 4 times a day with nice chit chat. Then he would want to meet for lunch (which we did).
The one time we did meet for lunch (early November), H opened up to me. H told me that during our M I really didn't pay attention to him, didn't tell him I loved him enough, and didn't tell anything positve about himself. H said that OW (whom he met at work) started showing him attention and telling him what a good looking guy he was and that's how it all began. H said that if I had told him some of the things he was aching to hear from me then he would not have strayed. H was crying as he was telling me this in the middle of the restaurant. H said he would like to take things slow with me and try to work on our M. I should mention that during this time H was seeing a counselor through his job due to anger management. H had gotten into a few verbal arguements with co-workers.
After that, it seems things were going super slow. H still made phone contact with me, but his visits to my house were few and far between. H would call me and say, "You wanna meet for lunch next week?" I agree, but when the date comes around, H would have an excuse as to why he couldn't meet me. This has happened a few times.
Fastforward to today. We were to meet for lunch today. I called H to confirm because I had the feeling this date would fall through too. And it did. H made some lame excuse as to why he couldn't. I had enouch. I text H and told him to leave me alone from now and that I was done with him. H call my cell but I didn't answer it. H sent me text saying that I was being hateful and that I never changed. Another text he told me that if we see each other out just pass by.
I really think I've had my fill and I'm taking myself out of this vicious cycle. H is no longer seeing a counselor, which I think is a big mistake.
H told me that every time he would feel himself getting closer to me he would get scared and run off. Is this a normal behavior for someone who is in MLC?
kdk
M:43 H:37 D14 (ours) D18 (mine) S22 (mine) S18 (his) S: 10/2004 Bomb: 2/15/05 In/out of home Living with OW #4 Talks of D for 2-1/2 years
