New All Time Low

[Heywyre]

Hi Corri

Having been D quite a number of years ago, I will try to remember what it was like

Initially, I was torn and felt lost as to who I actually was, being I no longer had the role of "wife", although I still had to continue a relationship with my xH because of children.

But as time passed, I developed a whole new ME - like you said "not good, not bad" just different. It is who I am today and I do things a heck of a lot differently in this relationship (regardless of its major flaws) than I did in the first M.

I think the main one is I respect me more. I will not let someone take my power away from me like I did before. Some men view this as a threat. They are the insecure ones and I stayed away from them (or at least I thought I did).

Being D is not the same as being M - of course it isn't! Just like being young is not the same as being old(er) etc. etc. It's just different and as long as you like that feeling of "different" it's ok. If you don't then you need to change something in your life to adjust that feeling.

I commend you on getting through one of the worse times of your life - I know I don't want to go there again and will do everything in my power to avoid it a second time around

Take care