Okay, I get what you are saying, but I did not mean to imply that marriage is the be all, end all. You certainly can have meaningful, healthy Rs with others and not have to be married to them. Nor does the piece of paper indicate depth of love or feeling. It's symbolic, to be sure, but to give up Who You Are for it, to me, leads to the very problems we've all experienced.
I guess my point was... marrying someone DOES indicate commitment and monogamy, an intention and a pledge you make to another... Fcking someone doesn't, necessarily. It is what it is. We bring meaning to IT, but many of us flip it.
You don't need a marriage license to be committed or monogamous, and you don't have to stay monogamous just because you have a license... but I do see a big difference between the concept of marriage, and the concept of sex. I don't think of the two as interchangable. That was my point.
