Quote: I don't know that you do... I'd say people come in and out of the state... but the very best news is... now you know what it feels like to be in it, and so it is always a marker for yourself. You know when you are there, but more importantly, you know when you AREN'T there, and can work to get back to that place.
That part about knowing when you AREN'T there is very true. For instance, I would know that I wasn't there if I was feeling jealous, possessive, insecure, controlled or out of control. Who was that nucking futs woman who was weeping with jealous misery because her H was jacking off to porn rather than f*cking her? Remember her- the one who wanted to be with the man who would sign a contract guaranteeing that he would never turn her down when she asked for sex? Yikes! The saying "Be careful what you wish for girl or you will surely get it" certainly applies to that thought.
I am so happy to be un-"fused" that I even had the thought that maybe I should give my H a "free pass" to have sex with other women since it would be fun for him now that he has more sexual confidence (and not because I would be hoping that he would return the favor-LOL). However, my H might still be too fused to want to hear the equivalent of "I don't care if you sleep with other women" and there would be the fusion state of the other women to consider etc.etc. so it's probably not a good idea.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
