I once tried to explain my notion of the difference between being HD or LD by comparing and contrasting my thoughts with those of MrsNOP. She had posted that in her attempt to be more sexual she was having the positive thought "this man really loves me" as she approached orgasm. I replied that I was different because as a HDW I was more likely to be having the thought "I really love this man" as I approached orgasm. Now I think that MrsNOP and I were more alike than different in our thinking because we were both working towards a sexual ideal that was two people expressing their love for the other through sex, we were just approaching it from different directions. Now I think differently. I think that the best sex happens not when I am thinking "I really love him" or "He really loves me" but rather when I am thinking "I really love myself" because then I have nothing to prove and nobody to please but myself and consequently the same is true for my husband.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
