Ahhh MJ, I just hated that preggo story for you. Pregnancy is such a vulnerable time. I get your point that your H really needs (a) for you to maintain some sort of status quo level of attractiveness/perfection to be interested, (b) that has to be validated by others also thinking that you meet a certain status quo but that all of that doesn't equate to him permitting himself to engage you sexually. It must be frustrating to be expected to meet some standard that would seem related to his sexual needs but is, in fact, only indirectly related. You seem to be understanding more and more how to solve this conundrum.
