Another depressing story from my marriage to illustrate my point vis-a-vis male ego and female appearance. Four monthes into my marriage, I was 7 monthes pregnant. It was blazing hot summer and I was big and bloated and I had an ugly hormonal rash on my face. I was walking down the street with my H. Some immature jerk yelled "You're fat!" out of a car at me. The fact of the matter was I wasn't really fat, I was pregnant and I had made an ill-conceived effort to look attractive by wearing a sundress that probably emphasized this reality. Now, I'm not sure what I would have preferred my H to do in this situation but what he did do, choose to walk further away from me, was pretty much the worst choice he could have made(This should be evident since I remember this event clearly though it took place 18 years ago ). Okay, I do know what I would have preferred. He should have either A) Given me a hug and said "You look beautiful to me." (I imagine a man who is Alpha in the way of Hairdog might do this) or B) Chased down the car and dragged the guy out of it and beaten the cr*p out of him (like I imagine a man who is Alpha in the way of BlackFoot might) or C) some combination of A & B which would have made him my perfect Alpha man.
On a more positive note, I should add that I believe that my H has made some changes and his behavior would more resemble that of my ideal if this event were to recur.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
). Okay, I do know what I would have preferred. He should have either A) Given me a hug and said "You look beautiful to me." (I imagine a man who is Alpha in the way of Hairdog might do this) or B) Chased down the car and dragged the guy out of it and beaten the cr*p out of him (like I imagine a man who is Alpha in the way of BlackFoot might) or C) some combination of A & B which would have made him my perfect Alpha man. 