New All Time Low

[MJontheMend]

What I wanted to ask you though is this: Is there part of you that does it out of sadism? Or is it habit? I know for a while you were toying with the idea of saying "oh" or "hmmm" or something noncommital like that..I think that's the best approach until you are able to break the verbal sparring gridlock that befalls your M.

I had to think a bit to figure out how my behavior might be sadistic. Then it occurred to me that although my conscious motivation is to "cheer my husband up", my semi-conscious motivation might be to "make him take personal responsibility for his unhappiness". I guess I can see how this might be sadistic, however I guess I view it as a sort of "cruel to be kind" variety of sadism since I truly believe that taking personal responsibility for your unhappiness is the first step in becoming more happy. Of course, I might also be motivated by the desire to "prove" that "I" am not the one who is responsible for his unhappiness. It's like I'm motivated by a sort of irrational rationality that reasons along the lines that if I can prove that it's not my fault that he is depressed then he will understand that it is unfair to make me suffer along with him in anyway. Though, actually my idea that he would enjoy writing scores actually did cheer him up because it made him feel like I "understand" him.

Say...this is totally unrelated to your post but do you sell books on ebay? I was looking through a gal's selection of books and she had posted a picture of herself sitting on a rock and I thought, Hey that looks like Jenny!

Yes, but not me.


You know part of my thinking lately was motivated by a post you made in which you said that Mr.HP had said something to you like "You don't know what it's like to be a man in a man's world." in response to some advice you had offered him careerwise or something like that and you agreed with him. I have to say that this struck me as just about the most blatantly untrue thing I have come across on this BB ever. If you were out in the corporate world, you would be a f*cking shark. As someone who spent a while working in HR, I have to say that if , for instance, my quarterly bonus was based on successfully hiring two people to aggressively take over a sales territory from the competition, I would hire you and Corri and start spending my bonus as given.