I have a bit more optimism about your future, Jenny. I think that when your kids are out of the house and there's less household/financial stress, your H may come into a better space. He may have more mental relaxation and a chance to bring out more of his male muse ( musician) stuff, along with his sensuality. Unless of course, he starts obsessing about aging in his spare time. Anyway, keeping the differentiation going seems to be the way to go.
