I always feel like I am not much of a four when I read your description of your H. I do relate to the "bringing out unrealized potential" thing - this was more with my 1st M than now. In this M I have consciously tried to retire from that job. I don't have any great answers for you but I do sympathize the fact that you seem to be required to spend a great deal of time on your H's needs while yours remain largely unmet. Sounds like you can fairly well predict your H's moods/availability for sex based on what you know of his personality and behaviors - does that make it harder or easier for you?
