LP, I have a question for you based on your knowledge of the enneagram. Both my H and my closest sister, who are both Type 4s, have independently told me that they feel like I suffer from repressed ambition. They feel like there is something in me that wants to be a really successful businesswoman, in the conventional sense of making money and being competitive, but I hold myself back.
I am asking you about this because you said that as a Type 4 you tried to bring out the unrealized potential in your partners. So, maybe my sister and my H are trying to push me towards higher development, enneagramwise, by encouraging me to be more Type 5-like, motivated by greed rather than gluttony? It also occurs to me that although I am pretty much the opposite of a prude when it comes to sex, I am pretty much a complete prude when it come to money. Therefore, the fact that the issue in my marriage has gone from sex to money means that the issue has gone from an area in which I am HD to one in which I am relatively LD.
I know that there is something true about what they are saying but I can't quite get my mind around it. However, I did go out and buy myself a red leather valise to replace the recycled school binder and purse without a functional strap that I was using to organize my daily business/home life. Perhaps this is the equivalent of a sexually LD woman buying a sexy nightie to replace her tattered flannel PJs?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
