Quote: The fact that you aren't questioning your attractiveness or sexiness over this shows tremendous growth on your part from where you were only a short time ago.
Well, I think I realized that my issue was more guilt than low self-esteem. I felt like if I didn't make every effort possible to meet my H's desires in terms of my physical attractiveness than it would be my "fault" if we divorced. But this was just another instance of me solving his problems for him. If he only wants to f*ck gorgeous, skinny women than he needs to go do some work rounding one up for himself. Having a decent sex life is pretty high on my "want list" but I don't believe that being gorgeous and skinny is an absolutely necessary prerequisite. I'd say about half the guys in your average Midwestern post office line would consider me a reasonable sexual partner lookswise and that's pretty much how I would feel about them too- LOL. Also, it dawned on me that it was always the case when I was single that I had a much harder time finding men who were intelligent enough for me to want to talk to than finding men who were more than willing to do-si my do.
Quote: How about if you "ignore" him by telling him you are going to ignore him, thus not really ignoring him at all but still refusing to play the game. "I can't discuss this with you because I get too upset, so I'm acknowledging your situation and statement, but I can't really help you."
I try to do this quite frequently. That is my way of "ignoring" him. I don't just pretend like he doesn't exist.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
